In general, hugs, handshakes, a hand on the shoulder or a comforting rub on the back are examples of appropriate touch. But don’t assume its ok to just put your hands on other people. Personal space differes from one person to another so look for the do not touch signs.
- Make sure the person you desire to touch consents before you hug or attempt to console them.
- Extend your arms to hug a loved one and watch to see if they extend their arms to receive. If not, do not proceed.
- If you move toward a person who appears in need of a comforting hand on the shoulder – Look in their eyes and watch their body language for consent.
- If your touch is rejected, don’t take it personally! You don’t know what experiences a person has had in life so making it about you is not the answer.